Helping the soul return to where it belongs.
Explore why desire, conflict, misalignment, and lost conscience keep us restless—and how the soul finds its way home.
Desire Never Says “Enough”
We often believe that happiness comes from having more — more comfort, more ability, more recognition, more security.
But Paul Samuelson, Nobel laureate and father of modern economics, offered a striking formula:
Happiness = Consumption ÷ Desire.
No matter how much consumption increases,
if desire grows faster,
happiness decreases.
This is the human dilemma:
we can increase what we have,
but we cannot satisfy what we want.
Desire expands with every fulfillment,
creating an endless loop of longing followed by disappointment.
This alone makes sustained happiness impossible.
The Harvard Happiness Study (Grant Study) — the longest study on human wellbeing — came to one conclusion:
Happiness is built on relationships and love.
Yet the very relationships meant to bring joy
often bring conflict, disappointment, and pain.
Why?
Because intimacy reveals our fears, expectations, pride, and brokenness.
Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington — known as “the Pope of Marriage Research” — discovered:
69% of relationship conflicts are perpetual and unsolvable.
Not because couples are flawed,
but because human nature is complex and wounded.
This means that even where happiness should exist —
in love, family, and closeness —
pain and struggle often follow.
This is the deeper reason.
We are unhappy not because we lack external blessings,
but because our inner structure is misaligned.
When:
- meaning is unclear,
- truth feels unstable,
- love becomes conditional,
- identity lacks grounding,
the soul becomes fragmented.
We live divided between who we are and who we pretend to be.
We chase fulfillment externally while our inner world collapses.
Human nature, left to itself,
loses harmony between body, mind, and soul.
Happiness cannot grow in disordered soil.
Chapter 3 of Happiness and Life points to a final, profound truth:
We are not happy because the inner compass meant to guide life — the conscience — has been silenced.
Conscience:
- recognizes good,
- resists evil,
- calls us back to truth,
- warns when life goes astray.
But in modern life:
- comfort replaces conviction,
- desire replaces discipline,
- relativism replaces truth,
- self replaces responsibility.
When conscience grows dim,
life loses direction.
When direction is lost,
happiness becomes impossible.
A quiet conscience
is the foundation of a peaceful life.